Man Cub is now 4 and a half years old and is starting to realize that once upon a time Amma and Papa, my parents, were married.
Next month will be 2 years since their divorce was official and November will be 7 years since they split up.
He has never known my parents as married.
B’s parents are still married and he’s noticing a difference.
Add in my Dad’s girlfriend…who he calls by her first name, and the poor kid doesn’t know what to make of things.
I don’t ever want him to think that one day his parents will get divorced. Even if that is one of my super secret fears that rears up when the Anxiety Monster is around…
I’m really not sure what or how to say to D. I don’t know how to explain things to him in a way a 4 year old will understand, but not be confused or afraid it will happen to him.
The upside is that now everything is final and we’ve all (mostly) come to terms with all the emotional junk that came with being a married 20-something when my parents split up.
I make a conscience effort to spend time with all three sets of grandparents and try to make things as equal as I can. Even if my parents aren’t together and there’s a girlfriend in the picture, at least there is no shortage of people who love and care about my son. I just wish I knew how to help him understand without harping on the issue and bringing up my own baggage.
Sigh, yet again… I’m wishing there was an instruction book that came along with D when he was born.